Lolly is sick with a fever.
Hello. Welcome to our house when Mom is sick.
If you are a single parent, I admire you.
Anyway, I have a couple of business things today since I'm kinda phoning it in:
First, I wanted to share the suggestions that stuck out to me most from my ADHD post last week. There were an incredibly large number of awesome responses to that post and I actually had a really hard time narrowing them down--thanks so much for being willing to share your strategies. I truly learned a lot. (I actually tried a few things out to help me narrow things down.)
So, the first one that really stuck out to me because of its simplicity as well as the way it turned things on their head was this suggestion from Heather Jones who said:
So I do reverse checklist. I leave ten spaces open and when I do something I feel was worth reporting I write it down in that space. Then I don't overwhelm myself with a huge long list and feel like a failure when it is incomplete. It leaves room for imaginations and ADD. You will realize ALL the stuff you do when you get side tracked. Example: Cleaning room and while putting something away in bathroom drawer start organizing bathroom drawer. Add that to list when I wasn't even planning on doing it!
I tried this one out. What it allowed for was a lot less self-berating when, at the end of the day, it felt like not a lot was accomplished. The truth is, when you have ADD, a lot of the stuff you get distracted with is important stuff. (Not all the time though. Like the time I spent hours researching Wagner's Ring Cycle when I was supposed to be catching up on paperwork at an old job. Or the time I got stuck reading about graphic serial killings for like four hours when I was supposed to be studying for a final in undergrad. Take those scenarios, multiply them by about a bajillion, and you've just witnessed 60% of my life.) But with the reverse check-list, you end up seeing the value of your day in a new light, and then the positive reenforcement actually helps propel you into more productivity.
So, thanks Heather. I really enjoyed that.
Another comment that I enjoyed was one shared by Miranda Marrott who said, in part:
Recently read Jonah Lehrer's book 'Imagine: How creativity works' and I have to say it made me feel much better about my tendency to daydream and lose myself in thought. It can actually be productive. Lehrer gives some tips on how to use daydreaming/lostinthought time productively, but I can't remember what they are because I was daydreaming when I read that section.
Personally, I use calendars, all types. I have one on my night stand, two on the fridge, one in my purse, one on my computer, phone and iPad that are all synced. I find that writing things down multiple times keeps it in the forefront of my mind...
I enjoyed this comment because of its focus on the positive nature of daydreaming. Something I've tried to do in recent years is recognize the positive components of ADD. I haven't had a chance to read Lehrer's book, but I would like to. I also like the idea of using a lot of calendars so that I write my "to-do's" multiple times.
Finally, this tip from psychotherapist Diana Hoffman was surprisingly effective:
First, regulate the brainstem using rhythmic, repetitive motion: at least 20 minutes a day of rocking in a rocking chair or hammock, swinging on a swing, doing therapeutic dance or Tai Chi, or jumping on a mini-trampoline. The cadence is most effective if it approximates what a fetus experience in the womb as the mother is walking.
I was kind of surprised when I tried this and it actually helped me, but it really did! And then, as I thought about it, I suddenly had a flood of awkward memories of how I find myself rocking back and forth pretty violently like, basically all the time. So I think there might be something to this. (No joke, if you spend any time with me, you'll catch me rocking like I'm on a cruise ship or something.)
It's highly likely that newborn Tessa thought she was back in the womb because I was probably rocking like a tree in a hurricane at this moment. (Also, I love Anna's face as she meets Tessa for the first time...)
Anyway, there is such a vast wealth of information on that comment section. If you haven't read the comments yet, you should. Amazing stuff. Truly. I wish I had room to highlight more. Maybe I will another time.
I was going to talk about a couple of other things, but it's late and I have to go to bed so I can be Mr. Mom tomorrow. But before I go I have a question for you guys.
If you were offered to be on a reality TV show, would you do it? Why or why not?