Friday, September 13, 2013

Return of the FFAQ (which you should sing to the tune of "Return of the Mack") UPDATED WITH WINNER

*See below for results

Do you have that song in your head now?

If not, let me help you:


Who is surprised that this is one of Lolly's favorite songs? Knowing her fondness for black men, I'm certainly not... 

All right, now that we got that out of the way, let's get down to business.

It's time for FFAQ (Friday's Frequently Asked Question)!



I'm actually really excited to do a FFAQ again. It's been way too long. Thanks for helping to remind this week what a fun, important part of my blog this is. 

If you're new here, here's how this goes down: ask a question in the comments. Any question. About anything. People will vote on the questions that accrue by placing the word "ditto" under the question they most like. Whichever question gets the most "dittoes" I will answer in a post next Friday. And so on and so forth into perpetuity. It's not the most elegant system, but it does work.

Questions that get chosen tend to be somewhat short, very direct and clearly written. The earlier in the day you ask, the more time you have to get dittoes. I've been tempted in the past to do two separate days (one for asking questions and one for posting dittoes) but I've decided against it because I don't want things to get too confusing (dittoes happening during the question-asking phase and such). Historically, questions asked hours into the day have been winners, so I think there is plenty of time to get a question out there in time to win. Also: many of the questions I've answered so far have won only after having not gotten enough votes in previous weeks, so recycled questions are a really good idea, and you definitely shouldn't feel bad if yours doesn't get dittoes this week--people's whims change. There is no dumb question ever, and I've occasionally used questions that got very few dittoes in the past as a diving board for non-ffaq posts.

Your question can be about gayness, or it can be about anything else that might intrigue you (ADD, counseling, family life, llamas, etc.). I try to be as real, honest, open and vulnerable as I can as I answer these questions, and they have the tendency to go pretty deep. However, some winners have been light-hearted and fun as well.

All right folks, let's do this thing. Good luck, and let the questions begin!!!

UPDATED: The voting is over (and in fact no votes after 1:00am this morning--24 hours--count). The winning question has been selected, and I will answer it next Friday. Thanks for yet another great FFAQ! This one was a really close one--the winner won by one vote--so definitely recycle the runner up. 

Next Friday I'll be answering the following question: Being married to a wonderful man, who happens to be gay, I wonder if you have any advice? How common are mixed orientation marriages? How are they different, how are they alike?


68 comments:

  1. Tell me something about playing and teaching the violin --- which I do too! :-)

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  2. What would you do if one of your girls wanted to marry a gay man? As in, how would you have felt in Lolly's parents' shoes when you were younger?

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  3. Why did you go into the counseling profession? Because of your struggles with your sexuality? Because you had great parents and wanted to share that love and acceptance with others? Or none of the above? Also (unless this makes it too long) as a man with such a strong faith how do you not bring that into your sessions with clients of different or non-existent faith.

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  4. Is your ADD medicated? And if not, how do you suggest other people handle ADD without medication?

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  5. All right Weed. Since you linked again to the Celebrity Crush post, you are asking for it! Who is your Odd Celebrity Crush, and be honest.

    Lolly will love this post. Revenge at last! ;)

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  6. All right Weed. Since you linked again to the Celebrity Crush post, you are asking for it! Who is your Odd Celebrity Crush, and be honest.

    Lolly will love this post. Revenge at last! ;)

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  7. Being married to a wonderful man, who happens to be gay, I wonder if you have any advice? How common are mixed orientation marriages? How are they different, how are they alike?

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  8. After watching that video, I think there are several Halloween costume ideas there...

    In your professional opinion, what is the greatest threat to marriage and family today and why are we as a people, world, so vulnerable to it?

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  9. As a therapist what is the hardest subject that you have to keep your personal emotions at bay, and why?

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  10. If you could be with a man for one day with zero repercussions (spiritual, physical, marital, etc) would you do it?

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  11. I'd love to hear more about your faith struggles, as someone who has faith struggles and who has friends and family who have and left the LDS church.

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  12. You may have answered this sometime in the distant past, but...

    What was the process like in falling in love with Lolly? Did you have trouble accepting your feelings toward her? Was it a realization of feelings already had? Were you relieved?

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    1. Did you change the ditto rules? I thought each of us could ditto as many as we liked.

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    2. Sorry, that wasn't meant to be a reply, obviously.

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  13. Being married (& heterosexual) it is really easy to set the boundaries for appropriate or inappropriate communication with the opposite sex. Do you find it challenging to have friends who you could potentially be attracted to?

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  14. How can you have sex with someone regularly that you are not sexually attracted to? or ARE you sexually attracted to your wife?

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  15. I'm really curious about what you've been learning about pornography and the effects it has on the mind. You even said it's similar to crack (or something like that...). Would love for you to share your education and personal feelings on this subject with us!

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  16. Did your parents teach you good coping techniques for your ADHD? What were they? Do you have good suggestions at what parents can do to help their children manage their own ADHD?

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