FAQ (New)

Okay, so you're gay?

Yes. I'm homosexual. 

And you're married to a woman?


How does that work exactly?

Well, I detail a lot of that in my original coming out post. Let's just say here that it works very well, and we are incredibly happy.

So, you're also Mormon? 

Yep. I'm a devout Mormon who holds a current temple recommend. I believe the LDS church is the restored version of the church Jesus Christ established when he was kickin' it in Jerusalem. 

What was this blog before you came out?

This blog originally started as a blog about my ADD (Inattentive subtype of ADHD). It was a pretty sad place then and a lot of those posts are really serious and really tragic-sounding. Then it morphed into a moderately popular humor blog, which was lots and lots of fun. I did that for a couple of years, and most of the posts on the blog are humor posts. A few of my favorites are this one about a morning run and this one about the time I nearly played trivial pursuit with Ken Jennings. Also, a classic is Bambi Nuggets

What is this blog about now?

This blog is about my life. I still love to write humor posts, but I'm also chronicling the story of my family as we traverse the new terrain of my being out, and the media attention that has garnered. Lolly and I talk about the issue of homosexuality, and other issues we feel are important. We hope to foster more understanding and empathy among all people. 

I have some more questions for you. Is there a way I can contact you?

Absolutely. You can email me at joshUA dot weed at gmail dot com. However, I must tell you that I'm really, really bad at replying. I try hard. I really do. But sometimes I just can't. I spent a long time feeling really guilty about this, but then I realized that the guilt was dominating my life, and I just had to be kind to myself and accept reality: I'm not going to be able to respond to everyone even though I really, really want to. So, feel free to contact me, but just know that if I don't respond, it's not because you're not amazing. You *are* amazing. It's because I have ADD and the attention span of a firefly on PCP.

Do you read every comment and email you receive?

Yes. As I said, I can't respond to everything. That would be a full-time job and I already have two careers (therapist and writer). But I read it all, and you'd be amazed at how much impact a positive (or negative) comment or email can have on my day.

Can I get a referral to a good therapist from you?

I really don't know very many therapists. I probably don't know any at all in your area. But what I do know is that it's a good idea to therapist-shop. Studies show that a lot of your success in therapy will depend on your connection to your therapist. You'll know you've found someone right for you if you feel it "click" in the first session. If you don't feel that "click" then keep looking. You are paying for a service. It should be a service that feels right and that you enjoy. Don't be ashamed to therapist shop!

Can you be my therapist?

Probably. I do local (Seattle area) therapy and I also have some limited slots for Skype clients (depending on what state you live in). Here's my listing in Psychology Today.